4 pieces of advice for parenting your autistc teenager
autism, parenting

4 Pieces of Advice for Parenting Your Autistic Teenager

4 pieces of advice for parenting your autistc teenager

Parenting an autistic teenager is a whole different ball game than parenting a little kid.  Hormones go haywire, they get big and strong, and things just get harder.  It kind of comes as a shock, really.

But nobody tells you that when they are first diagnosed as toddlers or preschoolers.

Their future as adults starts to stare you down and it can look downright scary!

How will my kid live on their own?  Will they be able live on their own?  What happens when they are bigger than me?  How do you get help and services?  What if they can’t tell me what’s causing behavior changes?

Lots of scary questions. Continue reading “4 Pieces of Advice for Parenting Your Autistic Teenager”

kids, parenting

Why You Should Make Your Teenager Buy Their Own Clothes

Why you should make your teenager buy their own clothes

Years ago, when I was growing up, my parents instituted a rule that when we turned 13 we were responsible for buying our own clothes.  The farm would provide us with a pair of work boots and every day coat (meaning the coat you wore to do chores and farmwork) and Mom and Dad would make sure we had a decent “good” coat (meaning it was nicer, but you wore it forever!), but all other clothing purchases were your responsibility (we did get underwear at Christmas, though, so that helped, lol).

I had no other friends who had to buy ALL of their own clothes!  Seriously.  If they needed new jeans, their parents bought it for them.  They want a new sweater?  Their parents bought it for them.  Now, granted, my situation was slightly different, in that I had a good job by 13 (farming for your dad starts early and he paid pretty well.  And you get LOTS of summer hours in the tractor!)  But I had friends who had jobs later who still didn’t have to buy all of their own clothes.

As our kids got older, we instituted the same rule (except for Reece, but that’s a whole different story).  And we are completely in the minority. Continue reading “Why You Should Make Your Teenager Buy Their Own Clothes”

gardening

Garden Update (Winter Version) and Dreaming of Spring

mulched garden

My garden isn’t looking very pretty right now, but I think it has a certain orderliness about it.  Don’t you?

mulched garden
Enjoy the non-orderly parts of the my garden, ha!

I try my hardest to do a thorough mulching job on it before winter really hits so that it can sit and compost until it’s time to plant in April and May.  There are two reasons for this: Continue reading “Garden Update (Winter Version) and Dreaming of Spring”

fitness

CrossFit Update (7 Months!)

crossfit update

I cannot believe that it’s been 7 months since I started CrossFit!!  This is the longest I have stuck with a consistent fitness program and I can tell.  I figured a little update was in order….

I started CrossFit at the end of May last year and figured I’d stick with it until Labor Day.  This was mostly because our local group ran a deal that was good until then.

Generally speaking, even though I’ve been working out regularly for 4 years, I don’t stick with any one thing for more than 2-3 months, so this 7 month anniversary is a big deal for me, lol!

Here are the things I’ve noticed: Continue reading “CrossFit Update (7 Months!)”

2018 Goals, everything, fitness, gardening

2018 Goals and My Word of the Year

2018 goals and word of the year

OK, so I’ve always been one to have resolutions or goals at the start of a new year.  Ever since I was a kid, I’d write them down in my diary or really ponder something.  As an adult, those resolutions became things like “Keep the house cleaner.”  Oh-so exciting and specific, right?

Usually my resolutions revolved around my faults and very often, I never lived up to what I thought I should do.  I didn’t have a clear definition, though, just a general idea.

This year I’m trying it differently.  I’m going to list out my specific goals (and give you periodic updates!) and also have a word that sums it all up.

To kick it off, I’ll start off with my Word of the Year! Continue reading “2018 Goals and My Word of the Year”

4H, everything, kids, life on the farm

…and Everything Else

small dog

Today, I’m going to a just give you a random post about a little bit of “everything else” that’s been going on around here!  July, August and September threw for a bit of a loop and I’ve had a hard time sitting in front of the computer to blog about it.  It was a good loop, mind you 😉

1  Tent camping over Labor Day

Jeff’s family has camped in Noel, Missouri over Labor Day for decades, literally.  It’s a large family affair involving distant cousins, great aunts, etc.  Anyway, we have a great time, but due to livestock issues and the crowded conditions of the river (which Reece doesn’t do well with), we didn’t go last year.  Instead we started going during August in the middle of the week with Jeff’s parents and his sister and her family.  It had gotten really difficult for both Jeff and his dad to be gone at the same time because of the cattle operation and finding someone to water and check on everything, so they decided that this summer, they couldn’t both be gone at the same time. Well, we went camping in August for 5 days in our camper with Jeff’s sister and her family, but my girls and I really missed going over Labor Day with the big group.  So, we took a wild hair and decided to just load the truck up, drive over ourselves, and tent camp! Continue reading “…and Everything Else”

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4H, kids

5 Lessons Learned from 4H and the County Fair

 

5 Lessons learned from 4H and the County Fair

Our county fair has come and gone.  Lessons were learned, tears were shed, sleep was lost, awards were won, and fun was had.

I grew up always going to the Cowley County Fair.  I helped my grandma run the open class art department and always entered baking and art.  The carnival rides and grandstand events were a huge hit and, as I got older, I loved running around the fairgrounds with my friends.

man and boy in grandstands
Here’s Jeff and Reece in the grandstands at the Figure 8 races. We all love a good race with lots of close calls and maybe a few wrecks 😉

When most people think of the county fair, usually 4H comes to mind.  Well, I was only in 4H for one year when I was 10, so the fair and 4H didn’t really sync together in my mind. Continue reading “5 Lessons Learned from 4H and the County Fair”

everything, life on the farm

Summary of July

OK, so I totally fell off the radar during the month of July!  I didn’t intend to… it just sort of happened.

We celebrated the 4th and Reece had off school until the 10th and it’s really hard for me to get much done on the computer when he’s home.  He’s well behaved, just very demanding.  I hear “Mommy, mommy, mommy” a LOT!!  I know all of you with toddlers probably understand 😉  Sometimes it’s weird having a 14 year old act that way, but after years of him NOT TALKING I never take it for granted!

And then a push to get 4H projects done happened.  Plus the girls wanted to ride horses every night and go swimming every afternoon.  Shoot, I wanted to go swimming every afternoon! Continue reading “Summary of July”

crossfit review
autism, fitness

A CrossFit Review (Plus 5 Reasons Why I Work Out)

crossfit review

Ever wondered what the CrossFit craze was all about?  Me, too.  So, I joined 4 weeks ago.  And let me tell you, if you DO NOT love a sweaty, hard, near-impossible workout, then CrossFit is not for you!  But, if you like getting  your butt kicked several times a week with other crazy people, then you should totally try it!

I have been intrigued with CrossFit for several years, but never could justify driving into town (10 mile away) several days a week to workout.  Not to mention, the only time that might work for me was 5:30 am and there was NO WAY I was getting up that early! Continue reading “A CrossFit Review (Plus 5 Reasons Why I Work Out)”

back where i come from, farmwife, life on the farm

Wheat Harvest – The Best Time of the Year!

combine in wheat

We are smack in the middle of wheat harvest right now!  (Update:  We finished last night before our area got a big storm!)  Hip-hip-hooray!  Seriously, I think wheat harvest is the absolute best time of the year and I feel so sorry for everyone that doesn’t get to experience it!

This year makes my 37th wheat harvest 🙂  We have two main harvests around these parts- wheat harvest and fall harvest.  Fall harvest starts in October and can run to almost Christmas and is long and drawn out.  Wheat harvest, on the other hand, starts mid-June and everyone is usually done by the first of July (although I do remember several 4th of Julys as a kid where we had to miss the town fireworks because we were cutting.) Continue reading “Wheat Harvest – The Best Time of the Year!”